“I heard your call for me to come make your present feeling obvious.
I flowed gently down for joy, atimes for pains and atimes for both, unconscious
Sometimes I flow in a state of invisibility.
I come out in white robe to honour your exquisiteness and wet my path.
If you asked me to choose my moment of exit, I would choose your moment of joy.”
“Tears” according to Henri Frederic Amiel are the symbol of the inability of the soul to restrain its emotion and retain its self command. The most painful tears are not the ones that fall from the eyes and cover your face. They are the ones that fall from your heart and cover your soul and the hardest moment is not when tears flow from your eyes… It is when you have to hide the tears.
“Certainly tears are given to us to use. Like all good gifts, they should be used properly.” _Loretta Young
This article will focus on women as the victims of abuse. Women abuse is any use of psychological, physical or sexual force, actual or threatened, in an intimate relationship. Violence is used to intimidate, humiliate or frighten victims or make them feel powerless. I have heard, seen and read of women in different forms of abuses who feel trapped in their own world to protect their dignities. Just because you are not battered and bruised do not mean you are not being abused. You do not have to die in silence!
According to the Domestic Violence Prevention Center, most women will, on average, attempt to leave an abusive relationship between five and seven times before successfully and permanently doing so. Faliana Lee’s life was an example when she said “we want to make amends for the relationship to move forward, but the fact is, we are never moving forward. I don’t know how many times I tried to change myself to make things work. I was in a loop and it was never ending and eventually you loose a sense of your own identity. So when I left the relationship, I couldn’t even cry. I found grieving very difficult.”
She becomes scared of her partner, belittled by him, makes her feel self-loathed, helpless and desperate. Atimes she’s molested, raped, cheated and the abuse goes on and on. Stop overlooking! Get understanding of the scenario and be wise. Speak up and act to end this menace on your exquisite personality!
You may be abused if your partner
• Monitors what you’re doing all the time
• Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family
• Lacks self control that results in hitting, slapping, punching, etc
• Threatens to hurt you
• Humiliates you in front of others
• Blames you for his violent outbursts
• Forces you to have sex against your will
• Says things like, if I can’t have you no one can
• Makes decisions for you that you should be allowed to decide
If you think you are being abused, get help. Abuse can have serious physical and emotional effects. No one has the right to hurt you.
Dimensions of Violence against women
Violence strikes women from all kinds of backgrounds and ages. It can happen anywhere.
These abuses could be
• Dating violence
• Domestic and intimate partner violence
• Sexual assault and abuse
• Emotional abuse, etc
Inspite of the growing awareness of the problem and the declared willingness of states to fight gender-based violence, women and girls continue to suffer disproportionately from violence, both in peacetime and in the context of armed conflict, at the hands of family members and states agents even at the place of work.
Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step of ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. The scars of emotional abuse are very real and they run deep atimes more than the physical abuse.
If you have been abused, you may feel terribly afraid, confused, shocked or emotionally numb. These feelings are natural. Experiencing abuse or an attack can lead to serious mental health problems, including post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and anxiety.
If you have experienced violence,
• Reach out to people you trust
• Contact an advocate
• Call the police or hotlines
• Contact relevant bodies where necessary.
I keep these statements at the innermost part of my heart:
She’s a woman: she’s a mother, daughter, wife and sister.
She’s a person: she’s strong, smart and crafty.
She’s passionate, courageous, generous.
She’s action, emotion and devotion. She has hope, beauty and power.
She gives you respect, love and gratitude. She deserves nothing less from you!
In conclusion, No one has the right to hurt or make you feel afraid. Many groups and people want to help you live a healthier and happy life. A smile should be the most beautiful curve on a woman’s body. So give her an Exquisite smile and not an Exquisite tears!